Dear Aisyah,

Consider this a belated birthday post to you, my little Deisyah. You are now 1 year old, and before I know it you’ll turn 16 😥 and maybe by then you’ll read this.

Little Deisyah, when you grow up you’ll figure out that most people judge by your cover, even when they say they don’t. I want you not to worry about that, OK. You’ll be surprised of how obsessive some (if not most) women (and even men) to be pretty and beautiful. Go check Youtube to see for yourself. You’ll find many many tutorial for make up on how to cover your imperfections, you’ll find work out & exercise videos on how to loose weight here and there. I am not saying it’s wrong to put on some make up or working out. No, it’s not wrong. The perfect amount of make up will boost your confidence, and working out keeps you healthy. Just don’t get obsessed with it, can you do that honey?

Beauty is skin deep, Deisyah. Good looks fade. So don’t you worry about some peers telling you that you’re not pretty, because you don’t have to be pretty to take classes. Don’t listen to the people who think you need to be skinnier, you don’t. As long as you feel healthy, your BMI is OK, then don’t take their diet advice. Eat anything you like, do some jog if you feel the need to, but don’t be so hard on yourself. And if they hurt you just because they think you’re not pretty enough, keep your calm and lean on me for I will always love you unconditionally. Don’t get back at them, they’re not worth it. Leave ’em and focus on your dreams.

Beauty is skin deep, Deisyah. What’s important is a good heart. Oh I promise you, I’ll try my hardest to be the one with a good heart to give you an example even when I know I’m a natural hater 😟. No, I am not sure if I can be a good role model, but don’t worry..you have your Abi, he’s a good person by heart. Or you can learn from your Niyo, she’s a very patient woman. My point is, if you meet good people with good hearts along the way of your life journey, then go befriend them. Makes them company, you need to always surround yourself with positivity to create a good heart.

Beauty is skin deep, Deisyah. That’s why you don’t have to be surprised when you meet some artificial women with incredibly pretty face. Becareful if you meet one, because their artificial attitude is contagious. When they’re being insincere or even mean, you have to keep being kind, OK, no matter what. Just be kind, you’re kind of kind. That one is an advice from one of my kind friend, your onty Bebeh (I think she’s one with a good heart too)

Lastly, love yourself Aisyah. Take a good care of yourself, because you’ll spend time with her for the rest of your life. Of course you don’t want her to be ugly at heart, right?

❤ you always,
Ummu Aisyah